There’s always one.
Actually there’s always a few.
Whenever someone is giving out advice, based on wisdom and experience, and people are gathered around eager to learn, there is someone that needs more.
More information, more tactics, more details.
They want to know exactly what to do in every single situation, how to deal with every contingency.
They ask the “But what if…?” questions.
“But what if she’s with a friend?”
“But what if she’s on the phone?”
“But what if I’m tired?”
“But what if I’m not dressed nicely?”
On and on they go.
They’re not comfortable with taking on responsibility and they don’t trust themselves to be able to find solutions for themselves.
They’re afraid they’ll mess it up.
Look… you’re going to mess up. It’s inevitable.
No matter how good you get, you’ll still mess up eventually.
Messing up a lot is the price you have to pay for getting good.
You want an authority figure to lay it all out for you.
Yes, they can give you advice.
They can point you in the right direction, give you a rough map of how to get where you want to go and explain to you the broad outlines of the journey.
But the exact details of the journey will be unique to you.
You have to take your own journey, not someone else’s.
It’s the only way you can reach your destination.
It’s the only way you can get good.